Day 23 – No Complaining or Blaming

No Complaining or Blaming Allowed: This is Day 23 of our 30-Day Declutter, De-stress, Simplify Challenge! If you are not signed up for the challenge sign up here to join the fun!


Complaining or blaming not allowed

If you are a member of the Declutter, De-stress, Simplify Facebook group then you may have noticed one of our rules:

NO COMPLAINING OR BLAMING ALLOWED – When you complain or blame you tell the world you are powerless. You are NOT powerless. You are NOT a victim. YOU have the power to create the home and life you desire.

If you are serious, I mean really serious about wanting to live your best life then it’s time to own it.  When you complain and blame you are diluting the amazing possibilities that lie in your future.

Do this for YOU

When I got super-serious about decluttering, I stopped complaining and blaming anyone else. I got my head in the game, rolled up my sleeves and started decluttering. I knew I wasn’t going to get much help, and that was A-OK. I was on this decluttering journey for ME. I wasn’t doing it for my family. I wasn’t doing it for my friends or neighbors.

I didn’t worry about anyone else’s opinions of my slightly obsessive need to become organized. I got organized for my well-being. The more I decluttered my home, the better I felt. The better I felt, the more I decluttered my home! And, my family started to follow suit.

You deserve to have a decluttered home, so do it for YOU.

Do this instead of complaining and blaming

Instead of complaining lean into gratitude

There is always something to be grateful for. Always. Instead of complaining about the toys scattered on he floor, you could be grateful that your children feel happy and comfortable in their home. Instead of complaining about a messy kitchen, you could be grateful for the delicious meal you just ate. Focus on the good, and you’ll get more good.

Instead of blaming live your best life

Why do you want to declutter, de-stress and simplify? Because you want to live your best life. When you’re blaming someone else for your misfortunes, you are never going to be able to live your best life. Why? Because blamers believe that other people are in charge of their happiness. Actually, you and only you affect the quality of your life. You are in charge of your happiness.

Today’s assignment:

  • Pay attention to how many times you complain and/or blame throughout the day. Are you surprised by how often you do it?
  • When you catch yourself complaining, stop yourself. Then, replace that complaint with gratitude. Find one thing to be grateful for.
  • When you catch yourself blaming, stop yourself. Always remember that you are in charge of your happiness, no one else.

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