Slow your roll
I know you are busy and want to accomplish a lot. Me too; I know what it feels like to want to push through and get it all done…it feels like burnout. This is what I have found to be the best way to focus and get things done without becoming exhausted: do absolutely nothing.
I know. It sounds absurd and counterintuitive, but it works! When you stop doing and start being, your mind and body have time to catch up with you.
You’ll have your most brilliant ideas and gain the most momentum when you are doing absolutely nothing.
Most people aren’t completely ready for this concept, so let’s ease into the idea by looking at several things you can stop doing to help you focus.
Nothing divides your focus and attention like multitasking. We believe that we are accomplishing more when we juggle multiple things at once. Guess what…it’s not true. Research suggests that multitasking can be less efficient, create unproductive busywork and diminish focus. Multitasking leads to unfinished projects and clutter. Piles of partially opened mail, unwashed dishes and mountains of laundry disappear more quickly when we focus on completing one task at a time.
Doing it all by yourself
Start delegating tasks that other people can do for you. This frees up your time to focus on the most important tasks and responsibilities. You can do this at work and at home. Have a co-work or employee run weekly reports for you so you can focus on working with clients. Allow your children to do their own laundry and pack their own school lunches so that you have more time to focus on self-care. Hire professionals to clean your home or mow your lawn so you can focus on having fun with family and friends.
Things you hate
When you dread something, you are not going to be super-focused on getting that task done. You’ll probably procrastinate. Obligation and guilt are not good enough reasons to do something. Of course, there are certain things you can’t get out of like going to school or paying your bills. However, it is possible to stop over scheduling yourself. Be selective about what you put on your schedule, and say “No thank you” more often.
When you try to be perfect, you criticize yourself when you mess up. You nitpick and have negative self-talk. You are anxious about what others may think. This is just exhausting and causes serious mental clutter. You can’t focus when your mind is cluttered like this. Letting go of perfection is so freeing! Do what you can, when you can then move onto something more important like enjoying your imperfect life.
Releasing unrealistic expectations from your life is a great first step in getting rid of the messy stress. You may notice your home and schedule start feeling less cluttered. You may even have more energy.
Don’t get hung up on all the things you think you should be doing. Start thinking about a few things you want to stop doing.
- Do absolutely nothing for a minimum of 30 minutes. Are you an overachiever? Then, do nothing all day long!
- If this is way too much for you, pick one thing. What’s one thing you can take off your to-do list today?
Day 14 Recap:
- One of the best ways to gain great focus is by doing nothing at all.
- Stop focusing on doing and start focusing on being.
- Ease into this concept by letting other people do things for you, stop doing things you hate, and don’t worry about doing anything perfectly.